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LIFE TAKES PRACTICE
My friend Bernie sent me this excerpt from a book. Bernie is the gift giver and my Artists Way buddy. Sharing the journey with someone is therapy in itself.
Under the title ‘Ease the Guilt’ from Susan Carrells Book ‘Escaping toxic Guilt’:
“The effectiveness of any self-care, meditation or mindfulness practice requires just that – PRACTICE”
It had me thinking “Life takes Practice”
I think it doesn’t matter what age you are or what exactly you are working on, changing it takes practice.
Practice to believe in ourselves
Practice to put ourselves first
Practice to listen to our self-talk & turn it into positives.
Practice to get up early (if that’s your goal)
Practice to share your feelings
And the list goes on.
I know positive thoughts or quotes are not for everyone, but that ‘everyone’ is not me.
I LOVE THEM
That’s doesn’t mean it’s not okay to have a gloomy day – we all have those. But practising to prioritise the things that make us feel GOOD are a ‘self-care’ must.
Why is Self-care Important?
Do we really not know?
The Self-care forums definition of self-care is:
The actions that individuals take for themselves, on behalf of and with others in order to develop, protect, maintain and improve their health, wellbeing or wellness.
There you go! Look at those four words.
I’m not a parent, but I can see that a mother or father would move mountains to support and protect their child to develop and be the best they can be. If each of us thought of ourselves as a 3-year-old child – envisaging ‘us’ as 3, wouldn’t we want to throw our arms around that three year old and protect and nurture – seeing that we only want the best for this innocent being??
Guess what? Beneath the years, beneath the hair and the makeup and the freckles we are ‘still’ that innocent being.
Yes, decisions have been made in your life, acts have happened, choices have been made, but what you have ‘done’ does not define ‘who’ you are.
Your being, your soul, your light. Take some practice at being ‘present’ for yourself and gifting yourself with love and then choose to make yourself happy, whatever it takes.
I am so in love with my artist's date it's a revolution! There is something ironic about the gift of a guilt free date for me at the moment.
So, my brief back story is I am day 12 into The Artist's Way work book. It's a 12-week programme for creatives, that may feel they have lost their way a bit and could do with a re-focus.
Each day starts with morning pages. They are three pages of a daily longhand stream of consciousness. An excellent meditation practice for hyperactive Westerners, the pages clarify and prioritise our day.
Author Julia Cameron explains:
“Morning pages are not intended to be high art. They are simply the siphoning of the minds surface so that we can get to the deeper thoughts and impulses that lie-beneath our daily voice over”.
It’s interesting – as a life coach, daughter, sibling and friend I feel so able to help others look beneath their daily voice-over, yet there’s something about doing it for myself that I find more difficult. However, so far this process feels so good.
I’m sitting in a café on my own on a Saturday afternoon sipping tea from a cup & saucer and writing this blog by hand. There is something to be said about the pleasure of putting pen to paper in relaxed surroundings.
The morning pages are highlighting my self-talk every single day and it’s been a great way to help me to concentrate on the baby steps to my ‘recovery’ if you like.
When I say ‘recovery’ I guess I mean the recovery from my discoveries.
I am happy to share here that one of the things that has come up for me is ‘guilt’.
I carry guilt about many of the daily decisions I make, and it doesn’t make me feel good.
I’ve recognised this in myself over the years and through various self-development thought I’d let it go. But it doesn’t seem so.
In morning pages, they encourage you to look at negative blurts and flip them into positive affirmations.
I could burst out laughing right now as I write this, as I myself ask this of my coaching clients, yet here I am acting as if this is a new concept! Maybe, it is a new concept to me right now.
“I accept it!”
That’s another word that has come up for me…
My new daily affirmation to flip the guilt is:
So, I go back to the opening line of this blog that it is a current irony for me to have the gift of a guilt free date! The Artists Way encourages us to remember that the artists date you commit to yourself each week is a necessary frivolity.
Last week, I felt guilty I didn’t get around to my artists date. This week, I feel gutted!! Gutted to have missed such a wonderful indulgence (Acceptance! Acceptance! She laughs!).
I work hard to help others to be open minded to the tools of life on offer to them.
Julia Cameron shares that The Artists date is an essential to a creative awakening. A festive solo undertaking to explore something that excites or interests us.
Julia talks about convincing her students that there really can be a benefit in the weekly artists date.
“How can ‘play’ help them work, they want to know”.
HERE IS HOW...
With the morning pages, we set our dial to receive. We are receptive to inflow, no longer concerned with outflow.
To execute an artists date, we must be open-minded, and that open mind is available to inspiration.
It sounds like a no brainer to me. She had me at ‘the tool that is essential to a creative awakening!’.
So, whether or not you feel like embarking on a journey such as The Artists Way, why not consider gifting yourself a date in the next week or two?. Go on. Do it. Commit to yourself.
I can vouch first hand about how good it feels and how much I can’t wait to plan next week’s!
Give yourself this guilt-free gift of a sense of well-being and connection and if you like shopping like me, treat yourself to a little gift at the same time!
This was mine! Wink Wink!
Artists dates certainly do convince us of our worth.
You can’t put a price on that!
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